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He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys (PBK) (平装)
by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo
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Relationship, Self-help |
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| MSL Pointer Review:
A book you have to read if you are female, single, in a relationship, or even married. |
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
This was a very eye-opening book. The authors say what you need to hear and definitely tell it like it is. I enjoyed the book so much and wish it were longer. Women everywhere can identify with the different scenarios they discuss. It will save you a lot of time that you'd normally waste on guys that don't really like you all that much. Trust me: all women NEED to read this!! TOTALLY WORTH IT!!! |
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Andrea Wood (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
This book helped me very much. I just didn't get the way men thought. I would think well, this guy seems to really like me and since he's not making any further moves, it must be because he's shy, so I'll call him and let him know I'm interested in seeing him. (That's one scenario.) The few times I asked my father for advice, he would tell me to forget the guys, they sounded like players or commitmentphobes but I didn't understand why. Now I do. HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU reads like a book of guide lines. It's very logical. It shows you which men's behavior shows that they are crazy about you or not into you. That way you can close the book on the ones who don't appreciate your specialness, and consider only the guys who do. 'Cause you want to be in a relationship with someone who is crazy about you, right? It will save you a lot of time, as well as dignity. (By the way, the guy I called - that was two or three years ago - just finally emailed me a couple of weeks ago. I didn't reply.) The book is also short, quick, funny and enjoyable to read. |
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Emily (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
Other reviewers have said the book is just common sense that you should know...which it is, but when your blinded by the emotions and justifications, what you know is rational in your head just doesn't seem to click without that second voice backing it up as the truth. This is what this book is. It's what you know, don't want to believe and don't want to hear, but NEED to hear to move on.
It's also been said that it's repetitive...which it is, but I found that really helpful. I needed that message driven home again and again because I was afraid if I didn't keep hearing it, I would forget it, make more excuses and fall back into the hole again.
I never thought I would let myself fall into such a crappy situation where I wasn't happy and really wasn't being true to what I deserve. I wish I had read it earlier because I plan hopefully to never get into a position where it's all give on my part. And personally, I'm glad I don't have to make the first move. It makes that guy work a little harder (because do you really want to be with someone who doesn't have the guts to ask you out?) and the relationships where I have asked the guy out, don't end up. They always seem to take it for granted that they didn't make the first move. |
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
This book is a God-send! Don't think too much ladies ... the answer is just staring you in the face - he is Truly Just Not That Into You! Actions speak louder than words... how they act is them showing you WHO THEY ARE. Don't argue with that reality either! You can't change them and moving on means facing reality. No, it doesn't mean you don't hurt or grieve, or love this person like nothing else, etc it simply means you accept what is even though it isn't what you want. Don’t Make It Mean Something About You - there is a distinction between examining what patterns are in the way of your relationship success and disconnecting from them versus knowing it wasn't the right match for what you are seeking relationship-wise. No more analysis-paralysis, wondering what if, dabbling in regret, when a man really wants to be with a woman HE SHOWS UP AT YOUR DOOR WITH FLOWERS!! Besides, just because he is just not that into you, doesn't mean YOU can't be into you. Be your best friend (cliché) and never need a man to affirm you again. The best affirmation is within. |
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Pam Owell (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
It's painful when a woman likes a man and he doesn't return the feelings. I think the authors realize this, but some day someone needs to write a book when it's the other way around. Sometimes a man likes a woman who doesn't return the favor. Do we ever see any books about that subject? When guys who have been burned this way before run up against this, they at worst back off, or at best try to continue to see you, In fact, there were some guys who probably thought I was not into THEM! |
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An American reader (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
I got the book today and I read it all in a few hours! I couldn't put the book down because I absolutely love it. Greg knows exactly what is talking about, I couldn't agree with him more, in fact, I agree with every single sentence in this book...100% accurate. I've always thought the same way he mentioned in the book, but he details it so well it gives you a descriptive definition with great examples. I can see why this book was the # 1 New York Times bestseller. As Greg admittedly mentions he was a former 'bad boy' back in the days playing girls and leading them on for his enjoyment-therefore, he knows exactly what to add in this book coming from someone with such experience. I believe ALL men are just like women, we all want the same thing-love. The bordering excuses won't help you out unless you're willing to face reality and quit being so blind to men's inexcusable, rude, careless behaviors. We all deserve happiness. I absolutely adore this book! I'm glad someone (Greg) was brave enough to let the world know how men truly are. If a man is truly interested in a woman he will do anything to make sure he has her full attention yearning and chasing after what she has to offer. I believe women who disagree with Greg's great opinions are the ones that are in miserable relationships and are in denial and wishing that sooner or later their man will change his negative, neglectful ways for the best and admire her like a queen-as all women should be treated as!! The other author Liz does not always see eye-to-eye with grey...that is why she is 41 (at the time sine this book is 2 years old-2004) and she is STILL single! (Which she mentions in the book). If only Liz thought the way Greg did and accepted the fact that all men think the same but what separates the 'good' from the 'bad' is their willingness to change for the better and be a great man for their girlfriend's because they love her that much and they too want to be happy. Go get this book and you will learn a lot! I love that it is from a male's perspective point of view with a women's input, collaboration. This book is certainly an A+ Thanks Greg! |
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Daniel Neiman (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
A woman friend of mine gave me this book to read. It's a very quick read, easily something you could finish in a couple of hours. It's filled with women writing in to Greg and Greg responding to them. At the end of each chapter Greg sums up everything you should have learned in the chapter and Liz gives her thoughts as a woman reading Greg's advice.
Greg comes off as a know-it-all of relationships and he's not. He makes countless assumptions and generalizations throughout the book. I know it's difficult to respond to a person's situation after only reading a paragraph or two summary of their relationship. With this in mind though, Greg should be extra cautious in making so many assumptions about what's going on and what the woman should do. For this reason his advice should be taken with a grain of salt. The best thing to do in a relationship is to communicate to your partner. If he/she is doing something you don't like, you should talk to them about it. Don't force them to change but express your feelings about the situation. This also goes if your partner is not doing something you would like them to do. If they are then unwilling to change it is for you to decide whether or not you want to be with that person for the rest of your life.
But Greg thinks he knows the answer. For instance, if your boyfriend isn't having sex with you, Greg would say "He's just not that into you." "If a man likes you, he's going to want to have sex with you." This is true for most guys but it is still an overgeneralization. Some people may have had bad experiences with sex in the past and are afraid of not being up to par or something. In a situation like this it's not that the guy is "just not that into you" but that he is for one reason or another afraid of having sex. So like I said before, the best thing you can do in a relationship is have good, open communication. If your boyfriend is not having sex with you and you want him to, don't take Greg's advice and dump him right away but talk to him about it and get to the bottom of the issue and if he loves you he will try to work on his problem and please you. This is only one example of generalization from the book.
This book is really filled with red flags that women should watch out for. It stresses that you should be happy in a relationship. There should be mutual love. If your boyfriend isn't calling you, doesn't want to be intimate with you, doesn't want to marry you, is cheating on you, etc... These are red flags to look for which most likely tell you that he isn't into you or in other words doesn't love you. Don't just break up with someone because of something you read in an advice column (talk about pathetic). First and foremost, communicate these issues to your significant other. If he is unwilling to change and you are unhappy in the relationship, then get out. |
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Cruz (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
He's Just Not That into You was given to me when my last boyfriend and I broke up (for the millionth time). I didn't read it right away (honestly, it seemed a little silly to think a book could actually have any answers to how I was feeling!), but I'm sure glad I finally opened it and gave it a read. Wait a minute here, you mean all the excuses I'd been hearing for months are things that everyone has already heard before? The job is too stressful, the move took all his energy... blah, blah, blah!
I have to say that this book helped me over the hump of that break up. No longer do I sit by the phone wishing it to ring! (If you've ever wished your phone to ring, you need this book!) I am a total convert to the He's Just Not That into You way of thinking. And it feels good! |
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Jenn (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
This book changed my life. When I read it, I was trying to get over my ex who I loved, but unfortunately, he didn't feel the same. I honestly didn't know how I was going to get over him. Or find a man that wasn't a jerk or one that wouldn't vanish off to that island of lost men I'd heard so much about. He's Just Not That into You changed all that for me and gave me the closure I needed for my break-up with that last ex as well as closure for the hurt I'd endured from guys I'd been dating who would disappear. After reading this book, I realized I deserved better. And I realized I only wanted a man who only wanted me, for my good points as well as my not-so-good ones. It gave me the courage to be single and to live my life on my terms. The advice in this book is right on the money. Not long after I put my new He's Just Not That into You mentality to the test, I met my wonderful boyfriend who is solid proof of what Greg & Liz speak of in this book. He made the effort to call me and send me emails, and despite having a very demanding job (yeah, we've all heard that excuse) he made the time to see me. This book opened my eyes to the things men do when they are really truly into you. And if you really think about it, why chase after some guy who doesn't think you're great? That's what this book is all about. I've loaned this book to many of my girl friends who have thanked me profusely and even asked to pass it around to other friends of theirs. Don't settle...we all deserve better, and it is far worse to settle into a relationship that doesn't suit you than it is to be alone. |
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Jenny (MSL quote), USA
<2007-01-09 00:00>
This book is a revelation. It gives you the real scoop on what guys are thinking and when a woman should wake up and smell the coffee and realize when a guy is just not that into her. As a successful 27 year old, I found the material matter-of-fact and funny. I laughed out loud as I saw myself in the pages and even though the truth hurts sometimes, it was so liberating to read a book written from a typical male's point of view. I have recommended it to all my girlfriends who have spent so many hours trying to figure out what a guy is thinking. Take the plunge; read this book and realize what an enlightening experience it can be to be able to say to yourself, "maybe he's just not that into me" and move on to find someone worthwhile. |
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